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How Does Someone Survive an Abortion? I Did and Here’s How It Happens

I share all of this to answer many of the common questions that I know exist about survivors, but also because I hope that you use this information to educate others. Far too often, I have heard the complaint that not enough survivors speak out and share their stories, and I’ve experienced pro-lifers not understanding the circumstances and experiences that lead survivors to not share or get involved in the fight for life in the manner that I have.

In fact, I once had a pro-life radio personality call survivors ‘flakes’ for not sharing their stories. Please, before you judge a survivor for not speaking up or out, remember this article and the inherent struggles that we face. It’s not often that a survivor won’t share of their survival openly, but more likely, that they can’t, due to physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, or even social struggles. Some days, it is still hard for even me.

If you are a survivor or know a survivor and would like to be in contact with the Abortion Survivors Network, please visit: www.theabortionsurvivors.com.

Washington Post Lied About Me Surviving An Abortion Last Year….

Washington Post Lied About Me Surviving an Abortion Last Year, Would It Lie Now? by Melissa Ohden | Washington, DC | LifeNews.com | 9/26/13 6:24 What a difference a year makes.  Last year, about this time,the Washington Post wrote a “fact check” article on the Susan...

This is our generation–The pro-life generation

“This is our generation. This is our generation!” My soul soared as I overheard a group of pro-life students excitedly remarking this as their fellow classmates filed into the auditorium for a presentation that I was giving recently in Hamilton, Ontario, Canada.

The ‘pro-life generation.’ We hear this a lot, don’t we? What exactly does that mean? What does it look like?

When one door closes, another door opens–Part II

As I stared so intently at that closed door last spring, I realize now that I was failing to trust that when one door closes, another one opens, and that God’s plans are much greater than I can even fathom. I am so grateful that despite my sorrowful longing to prop open the closed door, that God threw open the heaviest door yet. I am so thankful that despite my thoughts to the contrary, that closed door wasn’t slammed shut. I still have contact with my birthfather’s family, it’s just limited and different than it was before. And that’s okay. Change happens. Life happens. God’s will happens.

How did my parents raise us to respect and love our birthfamilies?

How did my parents instill such profound love and respect for our biological parents within us as adopted children? My parents are ordinary people, just like you and me. They didn’t have all the answers, they didn’t have extensive educational backgrounds, they didn’t have much money. But trust me, that is more than okay, because what they did have, what they gave us and cultivated within us, was respect and love for God and others, which is what we needed more than anything.

A Child Changes Everything

Whether good intentioned or not, the truth is that words matter. As good natured ribbing as some of these statements may be, these words carry weight. Certainly, as a speaker and writer, I understand this full well and proceed accordingly as I craft my words, but, in my opinion, it’s the day to day conversations we have with people in which words have the greatest impact. Whether we are aware of it or not, the truth is that everyone we meet is facing something, and pregnancy and abortion are often one of those ‘somethings.’

There is More-God Sees and Understands Your Pain–Devotion Day 2

I have found a wonderful devotion series online by Family Life, www.familylife.com, which addresses this very issue. Each week, I will be sharing my own thoughts with you, along with a new devotion from their series, in the hopes that helps you on the journey to acknowledging and accepting more for your life.

Last week, in the first step of accepting that there is more to your life, we looked at how you are not alone. Today’s devotion takes us on the next step of our journey in accepting more by focusing on how God sees and understands your pain. I know, I know…..when you are in that deep dark place of difficulty, pain or loss, you sometimes think that no one could ever understand what you are feeling. I felt such despair as a teenager when I found out the truth about surviving an abortion, and I can honestly say that no one but God brought me through that dark place, no matter how much I tried to distance myself from my pain, which distanced me from Him. Luckily for me, luckily for all of us, He never leaves our side, no matter how we try to run from Him. God sees our pain and He understands it. Jesus has experienced great pain and suffering, Himself.

A Tale of Two Pregnancies

Every pregnancy is different. At close to three months pregnant currently, I’ve been reflecting upon this quite often. Whereas my first pregnancy with Olivia was uncomplicated, my second pregnancy with our son, Gabriel, resulted in a miscarriage late in the first trimester. While my pregnancy with Gabriel resulted in a miscarriage, this third pregnancy has been void of complications thus far.

Yes, every pregnancy is different. While my pregnancy with Olivia left me reflecting on the miracle of life that I was experiencing and the pain that it caused me to realize that my own biological mother had experienced these same changes and developments and was still led to abort me, my experiences in the last five years of Olivia’s life now leave me to be reflecting upon something very different during this pregnancy—not how my birthmother could still abort me after experiencing all that she did during her pregnancy, but how terrible it must have been for her to experience all that she did in her pregnancy and then be forced against her will to abort me.

Many of you who follow my ministry have heard me mention this some in the past six months, and for those who are new to my story and life’s work, or for those

As originally posted on LifeNews on January 29, 2014   "There are other people who are haunted by abortion, too.  Nurses and doctors." No sooner had the woman in the crowd after a recent event quietly spoken these words to me, when the tears began to fall down...