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  1. Corinne Ruskey
    October 17, 2009 @ 1:32 pm

    Melissa, I’m not certain where to begin. But I am going to try. I am a post abortive woman. It has pained me for 25 years. I have just recently started to come to terms with what I had done. When I heard about you I had to know more. I have done some research on you and have your bio. As I read I cried. You are the child that I aborted. (figuratively speaking that is)I have since been in a deep and saddened state. Not sure what to make of it all. To see you as a person makes what I did even more monstrous. I am fighting to keep my head up and to become a strong advocate on pro life. I speak to manyh about what I did and the pain I have suffered. I want to thank you for being the strong, beautiful woman you have become. Please never let anyone take that from you. I also need to say I’m sorry. I think by telling you that it somehow makes it more human or real to me that I am able to tell my children that I am truly sorry. Thank you for listening … Corinne

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    • melissa
      October 17, 2009 @ 5:07 pm

      Hi Corinne,

      I so appreciate all of the comments and emails that I get, but yours, in particular, struck a real chord with me. To be honest, I sobbed while reading it this afternoon. I do not believe that anyone needs to apologize to me for having an abortion, but your gesture truly meant a lot to me. Much like communicating to me reminds you of a child you have lost, having you apologize to me was akin to having my biological mother apologize.

      I pray that you can find peace with yourself for the choice that you made, and I hope that you realize that I am not angry with my biological mother or any other woman out there for having an abortion-I am deeply saddened by the grief and loss that are experienced as a result. Have you ever checked out the Silent No More materials? I think that you would find them very supportive to you.

      Again, thank you for your email and your support of me. I truly believe that we are all in this together-women who have had abortions, men and family members who have coerced women to have them, survivors like me. It is terribly important that we tell our stories to the world so that the true reality of abortion is understood. My blessings to you, your family, and your work in sharing your story with the world.

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